Helping a child with adhd

by Norma

Helping a child with ADHD

I had a child with ADHD– severe, and dyslexia who has gone on to become brilliant, achieved everything she set her mind to and is a walking testimony to God's Grace.

I've met other parents all over the world who are dealing with these problems in their child with ADHD and I found it difficult to explain that patience and time will reveal all.

It's not easy coping with a child who doesn't fit in to the system. And these children suffer a great deal.

When my daughter was 11yrs old I prayed about this serious problem and the following poem came in answer to my prayer.
(My daughter will be 37yrs old in May 2013)

Patience as always is 'essential' in all of our problems :-)


Helping a child with ADHD Poem - Permission to be Different

It comes with love.


A child who holds too much vitality,
a sense of itself and its own right to be,
must learn to subdue and control its own force
to bend and submit in society’s course.
Its nature must twist, its instincts must turn,
the object of course - it simply must learn.

The child who is not of the usual mould,
bears a heart in conflict of all it is told,
and the magic expression of all it has brought
becomes hidden and lost by all it is taught.
I cry for the child whose mind cannot bend,
whose will is its own - through to the end.

Not all I fear fit these structured ways,
they must meet with conflict all of their days.
Yet the rhythm of life beats more strongly in these
than in any I've met who too willingly please.
Society trains us towards group compliance,
it has too little room for the self reliant.

These children whose minds are simply too strong,
must be told many times that they also belong.
If not, their self worth is irretrievably lost
and they pay the price of society's cost.
One more delinquent, one more disturbed mind
because no-one finds space for a child of this kind.


It certainly takes courage to be who we're meant to be.

(Matt:11:25) At that time Jesus said, I praise you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, because you have hidden these things from the wise and learned, and have revealed them to little children.

(Romans 8:28) And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him who have been called according to his purpose.

Note from

Although Norma’s poem is for those parents seeking to help their child with ADHD, those of us living with any chronic illness often long to be ‘normal’ and it is also important for us to give ourselves permission to be different.

It is also important for any of us. After all, we don't really want to be normal, do we? We want to be our own unique selves.

There is a wonderful book that really helped me find the permission to be different and to acknowledge the ways in which my needs had been moulded to fit the family system.

It is called The Drama of Being a Child by Alice Miller. It is not an easy read if you are unfamiliar with psychological language as I was, but if this poem on ADHD resonates with your own determination to be your authentic self, you may find it well worth the effort.

Knowing you are healed,

Katherine T Owen

Webmaster at

tags: child with adhd, healing adhd, children, patience, permission to be different

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by: Norma

I am happy to see this poem I wrote about my daughter's ADHD published.

I liked what you said, Katherine, about our needs being moulded to fit the family.

We tend to develop a habit of either being rebellious, ( a naughty child) or of conforming to what's expected of us ( a good child ) very early.

Depression is a common ailment which can present itself physically in a very debilitating illness as well as emotionally and spiritually.

It seems that a lot of us are fighting for the right to be who we are.

The truth is, only God knows who we are and his presence is within.

We can talk to him anywhere at anytime.
God doesn't have set opening hours, he doesn't have a limited capacity for listening,his patience for listening never runs out and most importantly his love is real,he has no hidden agendas, other than a genuine concern for our well being, for us to be exactly who we are meant to be.

This Has been my absolute experience of God without exception. The Power of Prayer, it WORKS.


I would like nothing more than to hold every hurting child in my arms (age isn't an issue) we are all His children. Physically impossible of course.

Prayer, talking to our beloved creator is what we all can do, for others and for ourselves.

God bless you all.

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