I became aware of Kira Lynne’s work on illness and relationships
when we connected on twitter.
I haven’t previously come across a book on how to navigate chronic illness and romance.
The subject of romantic relationships is important for many people living with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and other chronic illnesses, so I invited Kira to share some information about her book here on www.HealingCFSME.com.
Kira's book can help you to clarify your own ideas on whether you choose to have a
romantic relationship in a time of chronic illness. If you are already in a relationship you can read her book to receive the companionship of someone who knows the difficulties and the joys involved.
Further down the article, I have included some positive self talk– release statements and healing affirmations– to help you to you practise self acceptance and self love around the issues of chronic illness and relationships.
Over to Kira to tell you about her book...
Thank you so much, Kira, for telling
us about your book on illness and relationships. I am sure it will help many people with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome /ME. I can also imagine that the book will also be useful to someone who is in a relationship with someone with CFS/ME who wants to gain an understanding of how it is for them.
The healing affirmations below are for those of you who are single and would like to open to the belief that living with illness and a romantic relationship can be possible for you.
It's OK for me to feel lonely.
It's OK for me to wish I had a romantic relationship.
It's OK me to feel this isn't possible because of illness.
It's OK to find it hard to put up with the illness myself.
It's OK to find it hard to believe that someone else will put up with the illness.
But I know there are millions of people out there.
I know that people have many problems they have to live with, not just illness...
And many of them find partners.
I know that everyone is different.
I know I have love to give.
I know the skills I have learned to manage the illness…
… to make it easier for the people around me.
I use healing methods to be the healthiest I can be.
I use healing methods to deal with the emotions that come up.
I know there must be someone out there who would enjoy all I have to offer.
And even if I am not well enough to have a sexual relationship…
… I know that many people love to have a friend.
... someone to talk to.
... someone to be with.
... someone to share their life with.
So I open my heart to the possibility of a romantic relationship.
It will come when it comes.
For now, I set out to be my own best friend.
I give myself companionship.
I talk with love to myself.
I appreciate my qualities.
I make being with myself a really lovely place to be.
I don't have to have a relationship that looks like everyone else's.
Everyone's romantic relationship looks different.
I find something that works for me.
Maybe it is easier to be on my own in a time of chronic illness.
If this is my decision, I support myself in this decision.
When I am in a romantic relationship which is challenging, I love myself.
When I am in a romantic relationship which is successful and rewarding, I love myself.
When I am single and feeling lonely, I love myself.
When I am single and enjoying my own wonderful company, I love myself.
In sickness or in health, I love myself.
Whether you are in a romantic relationship or not, I wish you the joy of your own wonderful company.
Katherine T Owen
Webmaster and author of Be Loved, Beloved (lulu.com or kindle)
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